Tuesday, October 19, 2010

JDS Insights: September 2010

I've got some time on my hands. Can you tell? I'm relaxing by updating my blog again!

September was back to school month. A whole new year and my career felt like it had been kick-started. Well only because I started to push and take on the things I wanted to.

Sometimes it's not just about job satisfaction though. Money and official announcements to others are appropriate recognition too. If people know that I'm accountable for something in my job, and I have the agreement from my managers, then it's much easier to get the job done. Of course, if people don't know and I don't have the agreement from my managers - the job is tough.

My career is down to me; I wrote and agreed my own job description. This is not unusual for me - my career path hasn't been conventional. I've always seemed to be creating my own roles and contributing in my own way to the organisation I'm a part of. I like doing that. It's free rein. It's actually being entrepreneurial within an institution - an intrapreneur.*

Apart from teaching, being a husband, brother and son presented their own challenges.

And one of my old friends got married. Which reminded me of old conversations and how it's normal to have ups and downs within a relationship.

I also started something new - Urban Krav Maga. I've always been aware of my physicality (i.e. I'm a short-arse) but never really considered learning any basic self-defence before. Whilst I have improved my fitness over the past couple of years, I've noticed I've needed to push myself a little. A moshpit is great for me to release aggression but using it effectively is a new path. I heard about it from a friend of Circusboy1 called ThefellaThefella is mental. In a good way. And wildly talented.

The Urban Krav Maga is tough: back aching, neck paining and knuckle grazing. No pain, no gain I guess. At least I'll punch less like a fucking cunt. I hope.

I enjoy being alive (mostly).

And that was September...**


Sep 01: When I walk away from something I haven't finished, part of me stays with it.

Sep 02: If something isn't finished, or isn't going to get finished, say so.

Sep 03: We put so much in the way of loving the people close to us. 

Sep 04: What I think about something is different to reality. Trouble is I spend a lot of time in my head.

Sep 05: If you're committed to something, do what needs to be done. Thinking isn't getting it any closer.

Sep 06: Children learn from their Parents. Parents learn from their children.

Sep 07: Isn't there a time/ space between something happening and our senses perceiving it?

Sep 08: Being nice to people doesn't have to be difficult.

Sep 09: Money is the means not the end. The end is when we're dead.

Sep 10: In case you hadn't noticed - the future hasn't happened yet.

Sep 11: When reality is more interesting than the contents of my head, there is no need for drugs. And vice versa of course.

Sep 12: Everyone does their best in life with the tools they have. Seems that few people take the time to improve the tools.

Sep 13: There's nothing wrong with having nothing to say.

Sep 14: If I am committed to something and I ache, keeping going will make the pain stop.

Sep 15: Being unsure of direction means no progress.

Sep 16: It's ok to struggle.

Sep 17: Knowing when to stop and when to keep going is most of the battle.

Sep 18: Give up if you want. Just examine the consequences of your choice.

Sep 19: The more deeply you love someone, the deeper your capacity to cause them pain.

Sep 20: The more truth of yourself you reveal, the riskier life becomes. But greater is the ultimate fulfilment.

Sep 21: Your dreams never disappear they just get buried waiting to be rediscovered at the opportune moment.

Sep 22: Sometimes the people you love the most can be the scariest people in your life. They know *everything*.

Sep 23: Regardless of how they behave, the people you love the most are always helping you grow.

Sep 24: Don't try and hide anything from your siblings. They just *know*.

Sep 25: Your partner understands you in ways your family can't and won't.

Sep 26: The people who love you need to hear the great stuff that's happening in your life too.

Sep 27: You are stronger than you realise: physically and emotionally.

Sep 28: Sleep fast, live fully.

Sep 29: There are no right opinions - good, bad, cool, uncool - all a matter of opinion.

Sep 30: Friendship depends on our ability to pick up where we left off. Time and distance become irrelevant.

*Yes it is an actual word!

** These words are all mine. I created them. Acknowledge when you quote.

Tuesday, October 12, 2010

JDS Insights: August 2010

Better late than never!

Those of you that follow me on Twitter will know that my insights haven't dried up...just my posting to my blog.

August was a month of Sun and Family. Whilst I was enjoying the time off, I was coasting - spending money, finally getting round to finishing reading Frankenstein...and also - spending time at work.

The reason for being at work was because I knew I was going away at the end of August...which was kind of annoying because it meant I had no time before I would be back at school. There was no way I was going back into a new term without having done a LOAD of planning.

To that end, I would go into work in the morning and do something else in the afternoon...it worked well.

As for going away...well it was a family affair...a couple of weddings in August and all that I think about is the fraught, fun and frolics of the family.

That was August.*


Aug 1: You can't really know someone unless you take time to listen for what they're passionate about.

Aug 2: Sometimes people don't realise their passions, talents and strengths. Yet its the source of happiness.

Aug 3: A to-do list is never complete. But it helps focus the mind and clear the head.

Aug 4: If you complete everything on your to-do list, your to-do list isn't complete.

Aug 5: There are some things on a to-do list that never get completed. They're too big. But they're always worth going for.

Aug 6: Aspiring to something big makes the journey worthwhile not the destination.

Aug 7: The sheer volume of crap I produce never ceases amazes me.

Aug 8: I will always forget just how selfish I can be and need constant reminding.

Aug 9: It's always worth considering that people close to me know my blind spots and that I don't.

Aug 10: If you can receive, it opens up space for more giving.

Aug 11: I can't protect myself from everything. Life is inherently risky.

Aug 12: Listen carefully between the lines. Sometimes what's not being said is as important as what is.

Aug 13: Trying to please everyone and get everyone to like me is no way to live life. What do I really want?

Aug 14: Too much analysis kills action.

Aug 15: I can't think of everything before acting. Sometimes I just have to act.

Aug 16: Here's a useful question: what am I great at? We don't ask ourselves that often enough.

Aug 17: Listen deeply to others. Choose and act for yourself.

Aug 18: A routine will develop habits. This can be done consciously or unconsciously.

Aug 19: Master your routine. Don't let it master you.

Aug 20: Life is more than just a bunch of routines. We are not computer programs.

Aug 21: Do we write the program of our life? Or are we letting someone else do it?

Aug 22: Stimulus/ response. Life is all about following stimuli.

Aug 23: If I go back far enough, is God the First Stimulus?

Aug 24: We go to the toilet to get rid of accumulated physical waste. How do we get rid of accumulated emotional waste?

Aug 25: Families come in all shapes and sizes, arguments and compromises.

Aug 26: What's happened to my parents doesn't have to happen to me.

Aug 27: All families have issues. I am not alone.

Aug 28: All families are different yet all are the same.

Aug 29: You can discover more about yourself in your first conversation with a stranger than you realise.

Aug 30: Urban living can disconnect us from each other. People are people in all places.

Aug 31: I'm not sure I ever really own anything.

*Quote me liberally. Just say it was me.